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Now that the divorce rate is at about 50%, more and more couples are taking longer to get married.  In a recent Parade interview,  Enrique Iglesias was asked are there any wedding bell in his future. His answer being “I’ve never really thought marriage would make a difference. Maybe it’s because I come from divorced parents, but I don’t think you love someone more because of a piece of paper.” Enrique has been with his girlfriend, Anna Kournikova, for almost 11 years. Which prompted the questions,  how long is too long to wait for a ring? Of course, we don’t know what goes on behind closed doors, they might have both agreed that marriage is not something that they need to have to love each other. I’m pretty sure if Anna did want marriage, she would have left the relationship years ago. Of course they are not the only couple who have elected to get married. Johnny Depp and his beau, Angelina and Brad, are just a few couples who have been together for over 5 years and have kids but no nuptials.

There is no right or wrong amount of time to wait for a ring, the real question is do both of you want to get married. If one says yes and the other says no, you might be waiting for a day that will never come. Both parties in the relationship need to agree that both either want marriage or they don’t. There is no half and half. When it comes to a relationship, both parties should have similar interests…especially when it comes to something as important as marriage.

Side note: Ladies! If you are doing everything a wife should do (cohabiting, cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, etc) expect to wait longer for a ring. In his mind you are already his wife since you are doing all the duties of a wife.