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Friends, we all need them and want them. When we surround ourselves with so many people, it may make it hard for us to determine who are our real friends and who is just along for the ride. Here are some tips to determine if the people you call friends are REAL friends.

  • Supportive– They support your dreams, goals, aspirations, etc  and even help you attain them.
  • JealousFree– A friend should be happy for you no matter what. Jealous friends =bad friends.
  • There– A real friend will be there for you no matter what. A real friend should always make it a point to be there for you, as you are there for them.
  • 100% Real– A real friend should be 100% upfront and honest with you, especially when you ask them for advice. Sure, the truth hurts but wouldn’t you rather know the truth than to find it out later on?
  • Non Judgmental– Its ok if your friend doesn’t agree with your decisions 100% of the time, but she should never judge you based on the way you live your life. Again, a friend should be supportive no matter how many mistakes you make. If a friend judges and criticizes everything you do, why are they your friend?
  • Trustworthy– Why bother being someone’s friend if you can’t trust them?
  • Your Feelings Matter – You shouldn’t be afraid to talk to you friends about how they make you feel. If they upset you, you should be able to tell them how their actions make your feel. A friend will never dismiss or belittle your feelings.
  • Keeps you in the know– A friend should always look out for your best interest, and their loyalty should be to you. If they hear something about you, they should always let you know. Just think If Vanessa Bryant’s friends didn’t clue her in to her husbands affairs she might still be with him thinking everything is peachy keen.
  • Similar interest– A good friend will make it a point to do the things that you want to do. Although you can’t expect it to be possible all the time, it should at least happen.
  • Selfless– A good friend wants to know what’s going on in your life and genuinely cares about your wellbeing. A fake friend would care less and will only call you when they need something.
  • Listens– When life happens, a good friend is a shoulder to lean on and is there for you when you need them the most.
  • Pride Aside– A real friend will put their pride aside when they are wrong and make the first move to amend the situation.

Having the right people in your circle is vital to your well-being and future. Having the wrong friends in your circle will have the opposite effect. Choose wisely who you allow to enter and remain in your circle.