The first date usually predicts if there will be a second which means there is a lot of pressure when going out for the first time. For some people going out on a date is as easy as walking, for others dating can be stressful and nerve wracking. Below are some first date tips to help the dating process go smoothly.
Meet me – If you are going out with someone for the first couple of times, meet your date at the desired location. If your date drives you are trapped with them until the date is over. If you meet them at the desired location and the dates is going horribly, you have an out. Not to mention the person you just met doesn’t know where you live.
Want to come in– Basically translates into “do you want to come in so we can fool around and possibly have sex.” Sad but true. So unless those are your intentions, skip the invitation request.
TMI– Too much information can potentially scare someone away. Save dishing the details of your personal life until you get to know your date a little better or you feel comfortable with them. Besides, why tell someone you just met your whole life story if you have no idea if there will be a 2nd or 3rd date.
Add me as a friend– Let’s be honest, people will judge you by your Facebook profile and the content of your Tweets without taking the time to get to know you. Your Facebook page might scream I LIKE TO PARTY, but in reality you are a committed individual with a big heart.
Messy R us– Don’t order anything to eat that is messy. This includes any kind of food that you have to eat with your hands. If you can’t eat it with utensils, don’t order it.
Eat!– This is for the ladies. I’ve heard so many men complain about women just eating salads when they invite them out to dinner. If you are on a diet or don’t want to eat heavy, suggest going on a date that doesn’t involve food. If you want to eat something light, suggest a restaurant that has small plates like a tapas bar.
Phone time– If you are constantly on your phone texting, tweeting, facebooking, etc, it shows that you are uninterested and your date might take it the wrong way. It’s ok to check your phone every now and then but don’t give your phone more time than you give your date. If you must take a phone call or answer a text, make sure you excuse yourself and wrap it up quickly.
Wasted– Know your limit or don’t drink at all! No one wants to be out with the person who can’t hold their alcohol. If you do have a drink, cut yourself off after 1.
What to wear– This is always a toughie, rule of thumb: Always look neat and clean. Let the venue help determine what to wear. Ladies: If your date suggests a shooting range, don’t wear stilettos and a mini skirt. Fellas: If your date suggests an upscale restaurant, don’t wear sneakers and a baseball cap. Dress appropriately. Still not sure, Google the place where you are scheduled to meet.
Remember, dating is supposed to be fun but can be unpredictable. Don’t let your nerves get the best of you. Focus on being yourself and having a good time.